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"It is the long condemnation of feminine qualities that has gone deep into the blood and the bones of women. It is man's conspiracy to prove himself superior to women -- which he is not. And to prove that the woman is weak, he has to condemn all the feminine qualities. He has to say that they are all weak, and all those qualities together make the woman weak. In fact, the woman has all the great qualities in her. And whenever a man becomes awakened, he attains to the same qualities which he has been condemning in women. The qualities that are thought to be weak are all the feminine qualities. And it is a strange fact that all the great qualities come into that category. What is left are only the brutal qualities, animal qualities.

 Love, trust, beauty, sincerity, truthfulness, authenticity -- these are all feminine qualities, and they are far greater than any qualities that man has. But the whole past has been dominated by man and his qualities". - OSHO

It is one of the toughest task for any human being. I came across an interesting mail from OSHO  and it is very interesting. Sharing with my readers as it is... -Chella

The psychology of anger is that you wanted something, and somebody prevented you from getting it. Somebody came as a block, as an obstacle. Your whole energy was going to get something and somebody blocked the energy. You could not get what you wanted. Now this frustrated energy becomes anger...anger against the person who has destroyed the possibility of fulfilling your desire. You cannot prevent anger because anger is a by-product, but you can do something else so that the by-product does not happen at all. In life, remember one thing: never desire anything so intensely as if it is a question of life and death. Be a little playful. I am not saying, don’t desire — because that will become a repression in you.

 I am saying, desire but let your desire be playful. If you can get it, good. If you cannot get it, perhaps it was not the right time; we will see next time. Learn something of the art of the player. We become so identified with the desire, then when it is blocked or prevented our own energy becomes fire; it burns you. And in that state of almost insanity you can do anything, for which you are going to repent. It can create a series of events that your whole life may get entangled with. Because of this, for thousands of years, they have been saying, “Become desireless.” Now that is asking something inhuman. Even the people who have said, “Become desireless” have also given you a motive, a desire: if you become desireless you will attain to the ultimate freedom of moksha, nirvana. That too is a desire. You can repress desire for some bigger desire, and you may even forget that you are still the same person. You have only changed the target. Certainly, there are not many people who are trying to get moksha, so you will not have any great competition. In fact, people will be very happy that you have started going towards moksha — one competitor less in life. But as far as you are concerned nothing has changed. And if anything can be created which disturbs your desire for moksha, again the anger will flare up. And this time it will be far bigger, because now the desire is far bigger. Anger is always proportionate to desire.

I have heard.... There were three monasteries, Christian monasteries, very close together in the forest. One day three monks met at the crossroads. They were coming from the villages back to their monasteries; each belonged to a different monastery. They were tired. They sat down under the trees and started talking about something to pass the time. One man said, “One thing you will have to accept is that as far as scholarship is concerned, learning is concerned, our monastery is the best.” The other monk said, “I agree, it is true. Your people are far more scholarly, but as far as austerities are concerned, discipline is concerned, spiritual training is concerned, you don’t come anywhere near to our monastery. And remember, scholarship will not be able to help you realize the truth. It is only spiritual discipline, and we are the best as far as spiritual discipline is concerned.” The third monk said, “You are both right. The first monastery is best in learning, scholarship. The second monastery is best in spiritual discipline, austerities, fasting. But as far as humbleness, egolessness is concerned, we are the tops.” Humbleness, egolessness...but the man seemed to be absolutely unaware of what he was saying: “As far as humbleness, egolessness is concerned, we are the tops.” Even humbleness can become an ego trip. Egolessness can become an ego trip.

One has to be very aware. You should not try to stop anger. You should not, in any way, keep the anger controlled, otherwise it will burn you, it will destroy you. What I am saying is: you have to go to the roots. The root is always some desire which has been blocked, and the frustration has created the anger. Don’t take desires very seriously. Don’t take anything seriously. It is unfortunate that no religion in the world has accepted the sense of humor as one of the basic qualities for the religious man. I want you to understand that a sense of humor, playfulness, should be the fundamental qualities. You should not take things so seriously, then anger does not arise. You can simply laugh at the whole thing. You can start laughing at yourself. You can start laughing at situations in which you would have been angry and mad. Use playfulness, a sense of humor, laughter. It is a big world, and there are millions of people. Everybody is trying to get to something. It is very natural that sometimes people may get into each other’s ways — not that they want to, it is just the situation, it is accidental.

You all heard about one institute called IIPM !? Heard about the pony tail clad Arindham Choudry? Then please read the Businessworld dated 31st October to know how true their tall claims! This is an eye opener for any student/parent looking for Good education from the so called alternative Business Schools ( to IIMs!). I am leaving to my native place to celebrate Diwali! Shocked by Delhi Blasts ... still life goes on always without bothering those small minded terrorists! Wish you all a happy "festival of Lights".

Proud? .... Yes! Because I am living in a city where its own citizens are trying their level best to restore the river Noyyal ! Today thousands of youths and elders are taking a noyaal Yathra. Siruthuli has organised this program and I am also going to attend the "Kootanchoru" program ( Kongu naadu's traditional  food items  will be served) organised by the Annapoorna Group at the above Noyaal Yatra Ending Function in VOC park.

LONDON (Reuters) - One in 25 fathers could unknowingly be raising another man's child, British scientists said on Thursday. Researchers at Liverpool's John Moores University examined the findings of dozens of studies, published over the past 54 years, on cases of paternal discrepancy -- where a man is proved not to be the biological father of his child. The studies, most of them peer reviewed, came from countries as varied as the United States, Finland, New Zealand, South Africa and Mexico.The findings of the studies varied dramatically -- some concluded that only one man in 100 is not the father of his child while others put the figure as high as 30 percent. The Liverpool researchers calculated the median figure at around 4 percent, suggesting that as many as one in 25 men worldwide is not the biological father of a child he believes to be his."The importance lies not so much in the figure itself but in the implications, given that as a society we are increasingly making our decisions on the basis of genetics," said one of the researchers, Professor Mark Bellis. "If, for example, someone knows that their father had a history of hereditary heart disease, they might be tempted to alter their own diet," he told Reuters."Obviously they need to be making that decision on the basis of accurate information about who their father really is." Bellis said that while mix-ups of semen during artificial insemination accounted for some cases of paternal discrepancy, the majority were due to a woman having sexual relationships outside marriage. He said in Britain, 20 percent of women in marriages or long-term relationships have had affairs, adding that the figures for other developed countries was similar. Around a third of pregnancies in Britain are unplanned, increasing the risk of paternal discrepancy. Writing in the British Medical Association's Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, the scientists called for further research in the area. "(We) cannot simply ignore this difficult issue," they said. Indians may be bit more secure. See how the future shocks are coming and as OSHO said the FAMILY as a structure may vanish in the next century?! - Chella

Some of my readers have asked me about the similarity between my blog and the "Konal Pakkangal" of Writer Charu Nivedita" ! Actually I want to name it Anal Pakkangal... but the english only readers may index for the word Anal ! So added a K infront of it to get the same meaning! The secret is out now ! ( One Girl Bhuma from Chennai said "Out of the blogs I visited ...your is attractive! ( Blog Appeal or sex appeal!? )

As for as the web is concerned I am publishing my writings for the last 3 years in my CoimbatoreNews and also in many Egroups like Akandabaratham and in my own website www.chella.zenvalley.com . In fact my inspiration is Not CharuNivetita but Bala Pillai of Sydney. He is a tremendouse force in the tamil Web Activism. Though I started ENE Egroup ( ENE Not Erumbugal ) against his sudden changes to his egroup Erumbugal, I understand his difficulties on creating online, workable, value added communities now! So I stoped making ENE as a seperate forum anymore. His Tamil.net is the better option I may choose. I am confident that it has all the potential to become a Mega Tamil Forum for the scattered Tamil Communities Globally.

Here I will publish my own views with topics ranging from Religion to Sex! I welcome your comments in the blog itself since I am already having a flooded inbox more than 1128 messages .. I checked a minute before!